Doubt the default

I begin the first list with a pilot edition – a collection of ideas that I always come back to because it helps to put my thoughts in order. Especially when too much is happening around me and I forget what’s important. In other words, I bring out some archive pieces that pass the test of time.

 

The problem is not that life is unfair – it’s that you do not know the rules

  • Like it or not, life is a competition. For everything you want, there is at least one person who wants the same thing – that job, the apartment, that love interest etc.
  • We judge others for what they can do (for us), but when it comes to ourselves we want to be appreciated just because we exist. Good intentions have no value.

Read the article on Business Insider.

 

What Happens When You Do not Care

  • James Altucher has written a lot about the great challenges he has encountered. About failure and the countless times when he was left with nothing (no job, no house, no wife), but he started from scratch every time, again and again.
  • Once we do not care much about what others think – to be successful, to be someone important, things will happen. More of the good ones than the bad.

Read the article on James Altucher’s blog.

 

The Power of ‘Good Enough’

  • One counter-intuitive tip.
  • Every time we make a decision we ask ourselves if it is the best one we can make.
  • Barry Schwartz, Psychologist, says that we will be happier if, after we make a decision, we are grateful for it. And try to find the variant good enough for us, not the best possible out there.

Read the article in The Atlantic.

 

In Defense of Being Average

  • What we see in the media are just examples of the most exceptional situations – both good and bad, and we compare our behind the scene life with the best version of others.
  • When the truth is that, most likely, our life will remain a common one.
  • The sooner we accept this, the more we can overcome the pressure to do something exceptional and do what we can, the best way we can.

Read the article on Mark Manson’s blog.

 

”Be Normal At Dinner”: On Geniuses, Lovers, and The Asks We Make Of Both

  • Our totally unrealistic expectations for artists and loved ones.

Read the article written by Anne Branigin.

 

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Andra Magda

Writer with a degree in Psychology, living in the heart of Transylvania, I freelance for companies and publications.

I write about work, failure, personal experiments, and creative industries.

I don't use social media, but I do share updates via my monthly newsletter. It’s like a magazine, delivered to your inbox.

Andra Magda

Writer with a degree in Psychology, living in the heart of Transylvania, I freelance for companies and publications.

I write about work, failure, personal experiments, and creative industries.

I don't use social media, but I do share updates via my monthly newsletter. It’s like a magazine, delivered to your inbox.